The South Node in synastry
The South Node-Planet aspects in synastry may make you feel like you’ve known your person your whole life, there is a sense of familiarity, being in your comfort zone. It can feel like a karmic connection, like both of you are a part of the same soul group, have similar pasts and habits. In South Node aspects in synastry we focus on conjunctions, opposites or squares.Depending on the Planet it aspects the relationship can feel differently. In some cases, there may be a sense of regret once the relationship was over - a sense you didn’t put enough effort to keep it going. There may be lack of potential or growth of the relationship as they may hold on to the past and their past selves.
South-Node - Ascendant or Sun aspects may feel familiarity between two characters, you get a sense that you’re old friends or enemies. In some cases, meeting the person may feel like you’ve been brought back to a place you don’t want to go back to, a sense that you’re being held back by them. They remind you of your old habits, they represent them. Despite that, they may feel like your comfort zone in human form. They deeply understand your way of being.
South Node-Mercury can show a deep intellectual connection, like meeting someone who teaches you the things you’ve always wanted to know. Memory and attention to detail can be strong in this relationship. Harsh aspects like opposite or square can show manipulation, preventing the South Node person from accepting other points of view, having ideas of their own, the Mercury person may want to keep them in the same state in order to feel better than them.
South Node-Venus can show a relationship that was always meant to be. You might as well call this a soulmate connection, depending on the other aspects in the synastry. For the South Node person, this may feel like the relationship they’ve always wanted to be in, they receive from the person the love they have always wanted. There is a strong sense of security and comfort in the relationship. With harsh aspects, the relationship may prevent them from achieving their personal growth, fulfilling their desires.
South-Node-Saturn. With the harsh aspects in here, the Saturn person may try to teach the SN person how to live their life, control them, force their own ideas of structure, kind of like a strict parent who wants their kid to grow up in the same way they did. With a conjunction this may feel like a stable relationship, like you’re getting the support from the Saturn person in perfecting your natural talents, becoming great at what you already know, but it could still bring a feeling that they prevent you from developing into your ideal self.
South Node-Moon. You meet someone who understands your soul on a great level, on a personal level. No matter what happens, it is hard to give up this connection and give up on this person. South-Node-Ceres may share similar qualities in terms of the comfort and sense of security the relationship can bring.
South Node-Pluto. A relationship transformative for both people. In some cases with a harsh aspect, it may feel like a relationship that was meant to get back at someone, a relationship with the purpose of revenge or hurt.
South Node-Juno. The “marrying your childhood best friend” or high school sweethearts aspects. You come back to commit to a person you’ve known your whole life, someone who has always been there. In harsh aspects it may feel like marriage or commitment prevents you from accomplishing your personal goals and developing into your own person. Your identity may not exist outisde from that relationship.
South Node-Chiron. The “hurtlocker”. In a conjunction the Chiron person may take up the role as a healer, as someone who helps the SN person deal with the past, their being. They may take their pain away while destroying themselves. In harsh aspects, the relationship can trigger people’s past trauma, bring them to a place of unfulfillment where both people may bring out the bad out of each other, remind each other of their past mistakes, lack the ability to let go. It can also be a relationship where no matter how much they hurt you, it will be hard to abandon it.
South-Node-Mars. Here there can be a strong level of chemistry. In a conjunction, the Mars person can be a hypeman, someone who helps the South Node person develop their talents, the traits they naturally have. Mars is supportive of who they are. In harsh aspects, the Mars person may guide their life for them, not allow them to make their own decisions, be in control of them and their choices. Take offense when they do something better than them. This can be a competitive aspect.
South Node-Jupiter: Repetitions of old lessons. The Jupiter person may make the SN person love, appreciate themselves, find the good in themselves, appreciate the qualities they already have.
